When a Chu Ru girl likes a certain guy, she will go back and talk to her parents, to bring the ceremony to the man's house. Accordingly, in the 3 months of spring, the girl will choose the date and bring the fruit to the boy's house to inquire. In case the man does not agree, the girl will leave and promise to come again, until the man agrees to marry the new child.

The next time, the girls will go more crowded than the last time, and often go at night to avoid the noise. This time, the girl will not go with the group, in order to avoid the case that the boy refuses again, it will be embarrassing for the villagers. In the next visit, the girl's family will both convince and try to put the ring on the boy's hand. If the boy still refuses, the men of the girl's family will try by all means to put the ring on the boy's hand.

In addition to wedding rings and beads, in the wedding gifts of the Chu Ru ethnic group, there must be more white and blue towels. The blue scarf is for the ladies, and the blue scarf is for the brothers and uncles. The number of wedding challenge offerings is more or less decided by the groom's family, the bride's family must satisfy the ceremony to get married.                            Before the wedding day, the bride will stay at her husband's house for a week. During this time, the bride has to show off her housework, as well as do other hard work. At the same time, the new bride has to spend her own money to buy the necessary items for her husband.

On the 8th or 10th day, the bride's family brings gifts, including wedding gifts and food, food and a pig to the groom's family to make 5-7 ancient trays for relatives and relatives. At the end of the party, the bride's family took the child back to their home.

On the wedding day, the bride's family goes to the groom's house to conduct the ceremony and bring the groom home. After the advice and dowry, the girl's mother will wrap and tie a scarf for the young couple. Covering the newlywed couple's head with a scarf is an important ritual in the Chu Ru marriage. This represents the wish for the couple to be happy, to always have each other, whether in glory or in trouble.

After the ceremony, the bride will invite the two of them to stay at the house to drink wine, play gongs, and sing opposites. The two families eat and drink to congratulate the young couple, all conflicts and disagreements between the two families will now be eliminated. According to the custom of the Chu Ru people, in the first year, the young man must stay at the roots to test the couple's love. After a year, the male side will give the son a little capital, possibly cattle, clothes, bowls, etc. Meanwhile, the girl side will give the young wife some capital, then ask them if they want to go separate or not. live with parents.

As mentioned, the Chu Ru people follow the matrilineal system, so in the family everything big and small is decided by the woman, the children born with the mother's last name. However, the role and position of the husband in the family should not be taken lightly.

       The Chu Ru custom of "catch husband" is still preserved to this day, contributing to the diversity of Vietnamese culture. Then, every spring comes, Chu Ru girls are excited and anxiously waiting for the moment to put the ring on the finger of the person they love and miss!

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